Sharing vs Mine...Who gets it?

An (awesome) package we had to share. #RulesApply

Many individuals have given us an item with the condition or instruction of "Share it between the two of you." or "I'll only give it to you if you share it with your sister." Now to start off, we are so thankful for the gifts or the thought put into what has been given to us.

But in reality, this is quite difficult or should we say a challenge if it is one item to be shared between two. As twins we have shared most things; starting from conception.



Since we are ladies we often receive an item of clothing, which might we add we love! But we know the moment we get home we start to bargain. As a matter of fact the moment some one has given us the item, we start thinking who out of the two of us would this suit better (as in our style and personality) as well as what we have in our closet that we can trade for the new item.

This is how it works:
We know what value each other has placed on items through practice. The newer pieces have higher value since it's wear isn't as much as an item from last year. We must mention that the actual price we paid for the item has very little to do with it. It's about how desperately we want it and what we would give to obtain it. The items of clothing then have a value figure that needs to be matched and at the end of the day we both should have received something "new."

When the bargaining begins, we present possible options for exchange. We normally have a good idea of what the other twin wants. When an agreement has been made and the deal is set, we verbalize that the item is free for the other twin to borrow; but there is a title of ownership for the possessor.

(Clothing is just one of the ways we express ourselves. As identical twins, it is a form of  how we express our individuality, this is important to us because it deals with the mentality that we are or should be the same person, which we are not.)

We've come to realize that for every set of twins things look a bit different; it really depends on the relationship and agreements that are made in between each other. We believe we share most things, but when it comes to expressing our selves and who we are, do we prefer to  say "mine" and have that sense of individuality and ownership.